Love Yourself First

Love

What a wonderful thing. Although it's funny because when we think about love the first thing that comes to mind is someone else. 

We think the first person we should think about is ourselves. 

We should know how to love ourselves first. We should understand: how do we communicate with love? Which one is our primary love language? After learning how to love ourselves fully and understanding "how" we love, then when we should let others love us; we will know how we want to be loved and how we deserve to be loved.

Love Yourself First

Why? 

Well, how do we expect someone to come into our lives and love us when we don't know how to love ourselves, if we don't know how to take care of ourselves, if we don't know the things we like, enjoy, cherish or what truly makes us happy? 

We should know all of this about ourselves first.

There's so many things that come when we talk about loving ourselves, for example: Love Language. 

What is Love Language?

The term Love Language refers to the way that a person prefers to express and receive love in a relationship with their partner and themselves. In a healthy relationship, each partner needs to know and communicate their partners love language. How do we know what our partner's love language is? Well, it starts with them– they should tell us!

But what if they don't know? Even better, you both get to figure it out TOGETHER. 

A relationship where both partners are actively trying to understand and seek out each other's love language is a relationship that is not only growing, but blossoming into something borderline magical. 

You're opening the door to create memories and feelings that your partner has never experienced before, strengthening your bond and your love.

Another important thing to take in consideration...

Learning how to spend time in your own head. It is hard to be inside our own heads because here is where everything we are is saved and sometimes that can feel overwhelming, scary or even chaotic. But for loving ourselves, we need to understand what is going on inside us. We need to learn that the only thing that we can totally control is our minds and once we do it, we find clarity and we can understand our emotions, actions and feelings better.  Once you figure that out, it can really help your partner too. Clearly understanding what's in your own head has to come before we can communicate it to someone else. Don't be afraid to work through it together, but remember: it's up to YOU in the end because it's YOUR head.

You are the only person in your life that is constant, you can rely on yourself even when others might leave you.  In the end you are all you got. And you are the most important person in your life. 

Getting to know the way that you love is absolutely necessary to discover how you want to be loved. By doing so, you will grow and you will start understanding how important is to take care of your ENTIRE self; mind and body.

Remember YOU are the love of YOUR LIFE. 

We now how overwhelming starting this path can be and we can get lost easy. If you don't know where to start, here are some tools that helped us to start and they might be able to help you. 

We have created an ebook that took everything we learned and put it neatly into one place. If you want to take an even deeper dive, a book that helped us on our journey was by Gary Chapman.